170. Obliger Rebellion: The Pros and Cons
Obliger rebellion... it's an intriguing term, right? Gretchen Rubin introduced it in her book, 'The Four Tendencies.' The idea here is that when our external expectations exceed a threshold, then we can become exhausted or rebel. We'll talk about the pros and cons of this phenomenon and how we can listen to our body and make more nourishing, skillful decisions before frustrations reach a boiling point.
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Key moments:
00:00 Introduction to Joy Lab Podcast
00:39 Exploring the Four Tendencies
05:04 Understanding Obliger Rebellion
06:47 Personal Experiences with Obliger Rebellion
08:49 Navigating Expectations and Rebellion
12:36 Skillful Action and Final Thoughts
14:10 Conclusion and Resources
Sources and Notes:
- Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life.
- Gretchen Rubin's book The Four Tendencies
- Episode on the "What the Hell" effect- Food: What to Add vs What to Take Away [ep. 119]
- Weathering emotional storms series:
- Joy Lab Podcast #48 (Equanimity: A Tool for Emotional Reactivity & the Power of Grounding-Part 1)
- Joy Lab Podcast #49 (Equanimity: When an Emotional Storm Hits & Thoughts Start Spiraling-Part 2)
- Joy Lab Podcast #50 (Equanimity: Seeing our Storylines and Changing Course- Part 3)
- Joy Lab Podcast #51 (Equanimity: Emotional Reactivity and Damage Control- Part 4)
- Joy Lab Podcast #52 (Equanimity: Cleaning Up After the Storm with Self-Compassion- part 5)
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