43% of People Chose an Electric Shock Over Sitting With Their Thoughts. No Judgment.

In a study by Dr. Timothy Wilson and colleagues, participants were left alone in a room for 15 minutes with one simple instruction: think pleasant thoughts.

There was also a button in the room that would deliver an electric shock.

These same participants had previously said they would pay money to avoid being shocked again. And yet, 43% of them shocked themselves anyway. 

Being alone with our thoughts is, apparently, that uncomfortable.

And, it doesn't have to be shocks...when's the last time you grabbed your phone the second things got quiet?

The Problem Isn't That You Have Negative Thoughts

We all do. Every single one of us. In fact, research suggests we have around 6,200 thoughts per day, that's roughly 7 thought-changes every minute, and a striking number of them are negative, repetitive, or flat-out inaccurate.

In psychology, these are called Automatic Negative Thoughts, or ANTs. They're not a character flaw. They're a deeply patterned feature of a busy human brain — thoughts so well-worn through repetition that they fire automatically, often before we're even aware of them. 

The problem isn't that they exist. The problem is that we believe them.

Your Brain Is Not a Reliable Narrator

A 4-year-old once explained this better than most researchers. When asked if a scary thought was true, she said: "Yeah. My brain was thinking it. So it was true."

We do this constantly. We treat the contents of our minds as dispatches from some objective source of truth. And when we don't realize we're doing it, we're completely at the mercy of whatever thought happens to show up next.

The Good News: You Have an Observer

The good news is that we can call on our observer self for assistance. Your observer self is the part that can step back, notice a thought, and see it for what it is: just a thought. Not a fact. Not a verdict. A thought.

The moment you can do that, you have a choice. You can unplug from the thought and soften its impact.

This is a learnable skill. It gets easier with practice. And it might be the most important resilience work you do.

Want to dive deeper and practice this? In our full episode on calming the mind, we walk through the science of ANTs, learned optimism, and how to start building your observer self.

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Joy Lab is hosted by Dr. Aimee Prasek and Dr. Henry Emmons. This content is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice.